Perhaps the most famous unwed mother was Mary, the mother of Jesus, who found God asking her to carry His Son. According to the new book, Deliver Me: Hope, Help, & Healing through True Stories of Unplanned Pregnancy, by author Dianne E. Butts, both women and men are finding God in an unplanned pregnancy.
In the book, several women and men describe finding Jesus Christ and accepting Him as Savior after they came to grips with crisis pregnancies, some which ended in abortion.
One reviewer of the book, Denise of Ramblings of a California Couponer wrote, “I had an unplanned teen pregnancy myself. I could completely relate to many of the stories contained in the book and it reminded me of where I’ve been and how far I’ve come with Christ in my life.”
In another review, The Jolly Blogger wrote, “This book is not just for teenagers going through unplanned pregnancies… I had two. …During my first unplanned pregnancy, my fiancé (who was then my boyfriend) had been pressuring me to abort. We went to Planned Parenthood and someone said to me, ‘It is YOUR body. Whatever you decide to do, it is your choice.’ Naturally, most people might have taken that as encouragement to go ahead and abort, but for me, it was encouragement to keep my child because I was totally against the alternative. Now we have a beautiful daughter who will be turning 5 next month.”
The Jolly Blogger knows from her own experience that, “The most important thing for a person experiencing an unplanned pregnancy is a safe and loving environment — a place where no one is going to pressure you to make a certain decision and a place where you won’t be judged. From what I read, the setting for these stories provided that kind of atmosphere. The other important component is resources! It really is amazing how many resources exist within a community — unbeknownst to many! The stigma can be very overwhelming, especially if you’ve never asked for help before.”
On the Amazon.com page for this book, reviewer Kathy S related: “Overall this book is an excellent resource for anyone involved in an unplanned pregnancy including pregnant women, their partners, parents, grandparents, friends, family, and those involved in the work of crisis pregnancy centers.”
If you’re in an unplanned pregnancy and need help or just want to talk to someone, you can find one of these compassionate, confidential, nonjudgmental pregnancy centers near you at www.Optionline.org.
Mary, the mother of Jesus, was not the only unwed mother in the Christmas story. Her cousin Elizabeth was married but, incredibly, was also in her own unplanned pregnancy in her old age. Yet her joy in Mary’s pregnancy gave her strength, as you can see:
“At that time Mary got ready and hurried to a town in the hill country of Judea, where she entered Zechariah’s home and greeted Elizabeth. When Elizabeth heard Mary’s greeting, the baby leaped in her womb, and Elizabeth was filled with the Holy Spirit. In a loud voice she exclaimed: “Blessed are you among women, and blessed is the child you will bear! But why am I so favored, that the mother of my Lord should come to me? As soon as the sound of your greeting reached my ears, the baby in my womb leaped for joy. Blessed is she who has believed that what the Lord has said to her will be accomplished!” (Luke 1:39-45, NIV Bible)
Through Mary’s willingness to carry and give birth to God-come-in-the-flesh, we are all finding God in an unplanned pregnancy.
You can find out more about the book Deliver Me: Hope, Help, & Healing through True Stories of Unplanned Pregnancy at www.DeliverMeBook.com. The opening text on that webpage captures well the feelings many women have who discover they are expecting a baby, yet feel ill-prepared:
She stares at the test strip…
. . . palms clammy, breathing uneven.
She’s never felt more alone.
Tears blur her vision. Panic edges in.
Here’s the book trailer, to help you see how this book can help: