Find God in Marriage: Quotes Plus Marriage Book Review

By Karen O’Connor:

Here are a few great marriage quotes Karen O’Connor heard from other women, plus our recommendation for a new great marriage book by Poppy Smith:


Recommended: Why Can't He Be More Like Me? by Poppy Smith

Several years ago I asked four women friends who had been married a long time—some over fifty years—their secret to a solid relationship. I’ll never forget what what I learned and how their answers helped me to find God in marriage–my own marriage.

“I remember how God has proven himself worthy and faithful in the past,” said Corinne, “and that keeps me going forward.”

Joan added her perspective. “I stay open-minded and keep a sense of humor.” She admitted to being a perfectionist so “it’s important to laugh at mistakes, smile at misunderstandings, and chuckle at misdeeds, especially when neither of us means to hurt one another.”

Barbara shared her secret: “I gave up my right to be right. I realized that my husband is just being himself. He’s not trying to fight me. When I began to see him in that light, I saw what a precious person he is.”

Mabel said simply, “I’m committed because I desire to be.” She said yes to her husband’s proposal many years ago and never looked back or second-guessed her decision. That, she added, has kept them going and continuing to love one another for over five decades.”

I went home filled with new inspiration as I committed to find God in my marriage and to see what a precious person my husband is just the way God made him.

For more encouragement, I turned to the following article by Mary Fairchild on how to keep your marriage strong and healthy: 5 Steps to Building Your Christian Marriage.

©Karen O’Connor. Karen is an author, writing mentor, and frequent contributor to Finding God Daily. Visit Karen on the web at

Also recommended (by Laurie, Finding God Daily editor): the terrific new marriage book by Poppy Smith: Why Can’t He Be More Like Me? 9 Secrets to Understanding Your Husband.

Chapter titles include: He’s Not My Clone!, His Brain Isn’t Wired Like Mine and When I Say This, He Hears That. Here’s a funny note from the back of the book:  Q: “What do you and your husband have in common?” A: “We got married on the same day.” Poppy offers great examples that show how conflict often occurs and reveal how to overcome problems to strengthen marriages.

Most marriages start with romance and a promise to cherish. Here’s one proposal that should make you smile, titled: Greatest Marriage Proposal EVER!!!, submitted to a contest by MattandGinny. If your marriage is struggling, can you think back to your proposal and the person you loved the day you married? How can you recapture your appreciation of him or her?

Click here to see other entries: Ultimate Proposal Contest.

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Find God after Abortion with the Film ‘The Choice’

By Dianne E. Butts:

How can you find God after abortion?  The book Deliver Me and the short film ‘The Choice’ offer hope.


Bring up the subject of abortion and discussions get heated. Pro-lifers fight for the unborn. Pro-choicers fight for “a women’s right to choose.” (My short film, embedded below, reveals a different kind of choice.) In the melee, people who are forgotten are those who made the choice, experienced abortion, and now live with that choice. They often suffer multiple symptoms including believing God will never forgive them. But I discovered some find God after abortion.

In my book Deliver Me: Hope, Help, & Healing through True Stories of Unplanned Pregnancy, I talked with many women (and men) about their decision to have an abortion. Most of them told me that afterwards they struggled with nightmares, depression, fear, promiscuity, anger, anxiety, guilt, alcohol dependency, drug abuse, or suicidal thoughts or attempts. These symptoms can increase around the anniversary of the abortion, the date when the child would have been born, and holidays like Mother’s Day.

These and other symptoms collectively are called Post Abortion Syndrome (PAS).

In February, I participated in the 168 Film Project, which is a speed filmmaking contest to make a short film (11 minutes max) based on an assigned Bible verse in 168 hours (1 week). This year for the first time I headed up my own film team as Producer, Director, and Writer.

This year’s contest theme was “Promises” (from God) and my team was assigned Romans 10:11-13:

 “As the Scripture says, ‘Anyone who trusts in him will never be put to shame.’ For there is no difference between Jew and Gentile —the same Lord is Lord of all and richly blesses all who call on him, for, ‘Everyone who calls on the name of the Lord will be saved.’”

As I prayed about what story we would make into a film that week, I thought of a story in my book Deliver Me called “The Choice” by Chris Jackman, a singer/songwriter. Chris told me in the years following her abortion she deeply regretted her choice, thought God would never forgive her, and found herself numerous times with a razor to her wrist trying to work up the courage to end her torment. Eventually, at the suggestion of a Christian bookstore owner, Chris wrote and recorded an entire CD about her experience called “The Choice.”

Whether because of shame, guilt, or fear of being found out, many women (and men) live with a hidden secret: they’ve lost a child to abortion. They live with the agony of what they’ve done and the fear that they have committed the one sin God will never forgive. That’s a lie. Don’t listen to the lies anymore. God will forgive you. He loves you.

This Mother’s Day, I want to recognize all those mothers and fathers who have lost a child to abortion. As my Mother’s Day gift to you, here is my film ‘The Choice’. My prayer is that it will find its way to the women and men who need its message of love and hope and forgiveness, and that you will find God after abortion.

The Choice – HD

(Film run time, 10 minutes. Includes the original song The Choice, by Chris Jackman (Christene Jackman); part of a biographical music story on CD about her abortion recovery journey.)

© Dianne E. Butts. Dianne is a freelance writer, author, and screenwriter. Her latest book, Deliver Me for those in an unplanned pregnancy or with one in their past, just won a “Book of the Year” award. Her next book, Grandparenting through Obstacles: Overcoming Family Challenges to Reach Your Grandchildren for Christ, is due out mid-August, 2012, from Pix-N-Pens Publishing. Her first book Dear America has just been republished for Kindle. Follow her writing at


Finding God in Humor

By Karen O’Connor:

Image by Theeradech Sanin:

Have you considered finding God in humor? If not, give it a try. I believe God wants us to be full of joy and laughter and to give up fretting and worrying.

You will go out in joy and be led forth in peace; the mountains will burst into song before you, and all the trees of the field will clap their hands (Isaiah 55:12, NIV Bible).

By sharing a smile with others, you’ll honor God and bring encouragement and hope to yourself as well.

Five Ways to Nurture Your Sense of Humor


1. Share a funny or embarrassing moment with someone you know, and enjoy it together. My friend Melissa called to say she sprayed her hair with furniture polish. “It fell flat but had a nice shine!”

2. Laugh at yourself even when you feel like crying. I thought I’d misplaced my cell phone only to discover I was using it right then to speak with my neighbor. Oh my!

3. Cheer up sick friends with a book of humorous stories or jokes. Help them discover that as Will Rogers said, “Laughter is the best medicine.”

4. Find humor even in serious situations. A woman whose hair was growing in after chemo treatments said her husband Dan helped her laugh everyday. “We had a short-haired dog at the time so when my hair started coming in, he clapped me on the back and said, ‘Great. Now I have a short-haired wife too!’ I liked my new look so well, I never let my hair grow long again.”

5.  Make a list of scripture verses that encourage laughter and tack them up on your mirror or bulletin board to review each day. Here are a few.

“Our mouths were filled with laughter, our tongues with songs of joy” (Psalm 126:2).

“A happy heart makes the face cheerful . . .” (Proverbs 15:13).

“Blessed are you who weep now, for you will laugh” (Luke 6:21).


Finding God in humor is easy once you look for Him there. Enjoy this YouTube video from Mars Hill Church, “Was Jesus Funny?”

 ©Karen O’Connor. Karen is an author, writing mentor, and frequent contributor to the Finding God Daily blog. Visit Karen on the web at


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