Finding God in Crazy-making Mothering Moments

By Karen O’Connor:

Ever experience crazy-making mothering moments? Seeking and finding God in those moments helps.

 

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stockimages / FreeDigitalphotos.net

 

I sagged my full weight against the dining room wall and slid to the floor in a dramatic display of frustration. Defeated by my seven-year-old son!

My husband followed, extending a hand to help me to my feet. “Are you going to let that little pipsqueak steal your power?” He tried to hide the smile that curled his lips, but he didn’t succeed. He broke out laughing. I did too. Suddenly the entire episode seemed absurd. I got up, brushed off my wounded ego, and started again.

That scene occurred over thirty years ago but I remember it as though it happened an hour ago. Why? Because I learned from it. I learned to find God in the crazy-making moments of being a mom.

My child had not defeated me. He was just being a kid in a cranky mood who wanted his way when he wanted it. What else is new? I had given up because I was tired, overworked, and stressed. Parenting in that moment felt like the biggest challenge of my life.

NEEDED: A LITTLE ME TIME

Since then I have discovered ways to take care of myself so I will have the resources I need to be there for my kids and others. My children are grown now, but they have children of their own and I spend a lot of time with them. Today I know what I didn’t know then and I put it into practice. I can now say, “Maybe another time,” or “Not today, but please ask again,” or “I’m taking a day for myself” or any other sentence that communicates a boundary around my time and energy that I hope is loving and understandable and good for both sides. And then I actually do something wonderful for myself such as taking a walk, reading a book, or knitting a few rows on a hat or scarf.

I also maintain a little patch of ground I call “Karen’s Prayer Garden” in my backyard. (See related article with photo.) I have a climbing rose bush, blooming ground cover, a birdbath, and flowering bushes. Overlooking the garden is a small ice cream-style table and two chairs. There I sit and write in my journal, read, pray or simply stare! After spending some of my time in these pleasing ways, I have plenty of renewed energy for my husband, family, and friends.

Why not jot down a few ways that you can take care of yourself—even as you take care of your family. While doing so, you’ll not only be finding God in the crazy-making moments of being a mom but you’ll be leading your children toward a more joyful and peaceful life too.

Start children off on the way they should go, and even when they are old they will not turn from it (Proverbs 22:6 the Bible)

Enjoy Paula Spencer’s humorous and insightful article in Parenting magazine on what no one tells you about motherhood: 8 Things No One Tells You About Being a Mom.

Here’s a helpful You Tube video on being a calm Christian parent as you are seeking then finding God in your relationship with your child.

       

©Karen O’Connor. Karen is an author, writing mentor, and frequent contributor to the Finding God Daily blog. Visit Karen on the web at www.karenoconnor.com, on Facebook or follow on Twitter: @karenoconnor

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